The idea of “coming out of the closet” is when a person reveals that they are homosexual. This analogy is used because the person is said to be hiding in the closet because they are hiding their true sexual preference.
Revealing their sexuality is considered as brave and admirable, because others are likely to judge them for being homosexual. They might be fired from their jobs, abandoned by their friends, or even abused by others.
No one should be forced to pretend to be something they are not. Everyone has the right to be heterosexual, homosexual, or otherwise without being persecuted.
With that said though, there are several assumptions in this concept. I don’t care about being “coming out”; I don’t care if you’re gay. The reason I don’t care is the same reason that I don’t care if you’re heterosexual; it has nothing to do with me and it doesn’t effect me.
To reveal that you are homosexual means that you are revealing information to someone. If someone’s idea of coming out simply means that they will not hide the fact that they are gay, there is no problem with that. However, the idea of making a big announcement about your sexuality makes it sound very important. It might be meaningful to them that they are finally able to live without trying hard to hide who they are, but if such an announcement is glorified and melodramatic, it assumes it is much more important, especially to the people who learn of this, than it actually is.
Being homosexual is no more important than your hair colour or music taste. It is a personal matter that you share with someone you love. There is no issue with letting other people know you are homosexual, it is often more convenient so that others do not make mistakes or assume things related to that. There is also no issue with letting other people know that it is OK for them to be openly homosexual, supporting others when they need it is helpful and healthy for them.
What is an important issue, is that people feel they have to hide something about themselves. What is worse is that often people actually do have to hide their sexuality to avoid being beaten up, fired, or kicked out of their house. While people who “come out” in such situations might be brave, we should be focusing on ensuring that no one has to hide their sexuality in the first place. We should be promoting and ensuring a society that is open and safe for everyone regardless of who they are.
I don’t care if you’re gay because there is no need to hide that from me, and there is also no need to tell me. Most things do not depend on sexuality, or even gender. If you choose to act in ways that explicitly show you are gay, I do not understand that. I do not act in ways that show that I am heterosexual, because I do not see sexuality as a relevant factor when dealing with people.
We should be trying to make a world where being honest is the norm, not one where it has to be a brave risk.