Fighting is when two parties disagree on something and attempt to force the other to change or submit to what they believe. Obviously many people will disagree on many things, but fighting should be avoided when discussion is possible. People however tend to assume that discussion is not possible, and so they go for the easier option of fighting each other, either with words or physically. The fact is though, that discussion is in almost every case not only possible but a better option. Discussion might be harder, take longer, and require a lot of thought, but it is the most logical solution to a conflict. Fighting is illogical because it forces the other person to submit to your way of thinking, which is arogant and close minded.
When you decde to fight instead of trying to discuss something with someone, you are first of all disregarding the fact that that person, in your opinion, is mistaken in their beliefs. If you are correct, then the correct course of action would be to explain to them why they are mistaken so that they can benefit from that knowledge. The premise of this though should not be that you think that they are objectively wrong while you are objectively right, but that either one of you may be wrong. In this way, discussion is helpful to everyone because it’s not a lecture to tell other people that they are wrong, it’s a two way conversation to determine who is correct, not for the sake of winning, but to educate. Therefore when you discuss something with someone, you should not be focused on who is correct but instead what is correct.
When you do not do this, and instead choose to fight, you are being selfish or misguided. If however you are fighting with someone who will not listen to your arguments, then fighting might be the only option left and then you might be justified in fighting, if you have reasons to do so after thoroughly verifying them. Fighting might also be needed if time is limited, but again you should verify your own arguments as thouroughly as possible.
Another option is to choose not to fight or discuss, but instead ignore the issue. Some people refer to this as “being the greater man”, however this is simply avoidance, and is similarly as bad as fighting. For the same reasons I stated above to discuss things with people, discussion is a better option than avoidance. Sometimes avoidance is better than fighting because it will result in fewer casualties, but this must be weighed carefully. Appeasement has shown to not always be a good policy, since the person being appeased might take that for granted and just tsak more. Avoidance is also arrogant if you indeed think that you are better than the other person because you are avoiding “pointless” conflict. The point of dicussing, and sometimes justified fighting, is a just resolution to the conflict, even if it is just a disagreement between two friends. The point is to explain each person’s points of view to find out if either person is incorrect, and then to resolve the issue. Avoiding the problem does not resolve or fix it, it just leaves it there causing more problems.
When a person will not listen to others, or won’t accept that they might be wrong, or simply wants to fight for twisted reasons, then it is justified to fight back since it is the only choice available to you that will not result in a worse outcome. Wars and revolutions in such cases might be justified, but all peaceful options must be attempted first unless doing so would lead to an irreversible worse outcome, for example if attempting to hold peacetalks would waste time and allow the enemy to grow stronger to the point where they will have enough power to defeast you and not care about resolution.
Such a situation where someone starts a fight without consideration of the other person or of others in general is selfish, close minded, self deceptive and twisted. When a country wants to start a war to spread their rule or expand their empire, or simply conquer or take other’s resources without any consideration of the lives or their soldiers or the people they are conquering, they are being selfish and inconsiderate. This is a form of self deception that disregards others because it is easier for the to do so than to actually listen to their consciences.
Wars and fighting in general are therefore sometimes neccessary, but more often than not uneccessary and avoidable since they are a worse option that hurt a lot of people. Avoiding conflict and avoiding dicussions is also a bad thing because it can be arrogant and avoids the problem which can make it worse. If you are going to fight, then you you should make sure, as much as possible, that the fight is justified, and you should always try to end the fight as soon as possible with as few casualties as possible and making sure that you follow your morality as much as possible. Dicussing things reasonably with others requires open mindedness and logic, and even though it is often hard to do it is almost always worth it.